If you’re the parent of a special needs kid, you’ve heard the sentiments:
“You must be very special.”
“God knew you could handle it.”
“God only gives special kids to special people.”
They come from well-meaning folks who look upon you in wonder and amazement, marveling at how you manage to do everything you do and still keep your sanity.
They don’t know what it’s really like.
They don’t understand how most days you feel like you’re holding on to a shred of sanity by an ever thinning thread. They don’t realize how exhausting this life truly is. They see you grin and bear it and assume you must be a saint because how could anyone ever smile again?
They simply don’t know.
When Special Needs Parents Don’t Feel So Special
There’s a whole slew of things people say when they don’t understand what you’re really dealing with. It’s easy enough to shrug those people off as naive and clueless.
But the real struggle begins when we start to question ourselves. When we start to doubt if God even cares.
- We hear that God is always good, that He has a plan for every life.
- We hear how He offers rest for the weary and hope for the hopeless.
- We hear that He is a God with healing in His wings, and we convince ourselves that if we are faithful enough and just believe a little harder, with a little more sincerity, surely He’ll bring victory in the form of a miracle.
And then another day comes and goes, another day of “being special” in the eyes of those around you.
But you don’t feel special.