Two weeks ago, my son with Asperger’s sat on the couch and ate an entire loaf of French bread for an afternoon snack. He and the couch were covered in crumbs, and he acted shocked when we called him out on it.
I mean, he was hungry, so what’s the problem, right?
It makes for a comical story now, but at the time I was furious and completely confounded by such odd and overindulgent behavior. . . especially since I’d planned on serving the bread for dinner that evening.
We struggle a lot with self-control in our family, even the “neurotypical” among us (is there really such a thing?).
But we still manage — somehow — to take care of the necessary details such as work, household chores, bill paying, food preparation, etc. You know, the basic requirements for living a semi-responsible life.
I can’t help but shake my head in worry over my 12-year old’s future.
After witnessing such self-indulgent behavior I find myself wondering:
- Will he ever be able to live on his own?
- Will he develop enough self-control to actually stop a desired momentary behavior and go to work or to class?
- Will he recognize the importance of basic adult responsibilities?
- Will he learn to make friends in the world or is he destined to spend his life alone and lonely?
These are just some of the questions that plague me when I think about the years to come.
When you worry about your disabled child’s future, you can end up consumed by fear and anxiety. And that only makes matters worse.
What’s a special needs parent to do?
I’ll see you there!